You see yourself as a reflection in a mirror, the sky on a still lake, the moon on a calm ocean, street lights on wet pavement. Most people have had an experience but don’t know it to be a reflection of God. As children many of you, while gazing at a clear blue sky, a starry night, lapping waves, rustling leaves have dropped into a reverie and felt completely at peace. That peace is a piece of God. A state of heavenly grace. We are reminded of our souls source. This is another kind of reflection where we experience the divine reflected in all of creation.

Today’s busy life crowds out time for reflection. Reflection isn’t just for seeing what is around you, it is also for seeing what is within. Just as it is difficult to see our own faces without a mirror, it is also difficult to see our souls. Calm moments of solitude allow the soul to come to the surface of our consciousness. Any blank surface like a crystal ball, pool of water, blank wall allows the mind to still and the soul to be seen.

The difficult thing is that this state of calmness cannot be forced. It must be allowed to happen naturally. In today’s world there is very little humans do naturally. We have to learn practically everything from making love to raising children so letting something come natural, well, it isn’t natural. Reflection is a natural process. You don’t need to learn it, you need to let it happen, like daydreaming. So get really real and take some time to be natural, reflect, and get to know your soul.

Face to Face


“For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” -Jesus

One of the many ways aloha is defined is alo – touching face to face, and sharing ha – the breath of life in a spirit of love. When was the last time you really came face to face with yourself. I’m not taking about looking in a mirror, but rather about reflecting on your being. Can you recall the last time you deeply took in the moon, wind, rain, a stream, the sea, a rock, flower, plant, or animal? Huna, the secret of Hawaiian spirituality, begins with ha – spirit and life force in all things.  From this perspective seemingly lifeless matter like a rock is alive.  Weird?  Consider the way minerals in a body are a part of your life and relate that to the way rocks are a part of the living earth.  Where does organic soil and stone begin and end?  Recognizing our composition being of, respecting our make up, and it’s connection to the earth and the earth to the cosmos allows us to experience our connection to all of creation.  It is not a secret in the sense of something to be kept from others.   Huna is a secret because it is not obvious   Huna is hidden in plain sight, but it takes insight to reveal it.  This sounds mystical, but as with maturity some things are obscured by a lack of experience or education.  Experience cannot always be be directly conveyed, but sharing my education my allowyou to have your own experience.   If anything I write allows that to happen I will consider this blog a success.

Let’s begin with you. Take a breath and be aware that every breath is a rebirth for you, not just you, but also the air. You exchange yourself with the air and the air exchanges itself for you. The air that was in you reincarnated as the atmosphere around you and the air around you reincarnates as you. You are the air and the air is you. The same can be observed about the water in your body and the water in the world. Stone elements like minerals that make up your body are the same elements that make up the earth.

The word for land in Hawaiian is aina. I like to remind people that they are the aina and the aina is them. When we speak about taking care of the land we are also saying we take care of yourselves. When you see yourself this way you are aware that you are already a part of everything and everything is a part of you.

Awareness of oneness naturally evokes compassion, kindness, and joyfulness. A deeper meaning of aloha is living the oneness that reveals joy. This is why aloha has the meaning of coming face to face in the breath of life. Life being all of creation. So breath is not simply air but every energy that sustains life. The ultimate aim of life is joy. No one wakes up hoping for a bad day. There are many people who give up their right and power to have a good day by expecting and in a sense hoping, for a bad day. From the view of oneness it is easy to see that you are not born and you do not die, you don’t even transform, you are everything.

In Hawaii we greet with the honi. Honi by touching nose to nose and forehead to forehead with another person. You could even honi an object like a tree or a rock. Then inhale sharing the breath of life and the awareness of oneness with all of creation. The honi makes it easy to stay joyful because you are less tightly closed into yourself. A good handshake or hug will often do the same thing. An open heart and mind is a more relaxed atmosphere due to openness being less tight than being closed.

Recall the last time you conversed or argued with someone who was closed minded. Then recall a conversation or argument you had with someone who was open minded. You will easily recall extra tension with the closed minded person and an unusually relaxed atmosphere with the open minded person, even if the conversation or argument got a little heated.

With an open heart the potential for the intellect to turn cold is prevented. A warmhearted person will always have clearer mind contributing to increased competence than a closed hearted person. The reason is that a broader view allows more information to be taken into consideration when making decisions. So there are very practical reasons for having an open heart and mind. While there is nothing wrong with being sentimental, sentimentality is not effective when a person is focused on satisfying their feelings instead of engaging the person or situation at hand.

The causes of happiness or suffering in any situation in your life are you and your thoughts. In fact you and your thoughts contribute as much or more than other people or persons. Facing yourself allows you to consider your thoughts. Are your thoughts constructive, positive, kind, loving, and compassionate to all involved? Remember you are included in all involved. If you feel upset or hurt, stop, calm and refresh yourself in the moment by drinking ha consciously. Say to yourself, ‘I am taking in life.’ When calm give yourself time to reflect. Time is space. Openness. Kindness. Decide the way you want to exist regardless of the way the situation, or other people, seem to influence you. Don’t let anything eclipse your ha and aloha.

Remain aware of the ha and the way it keeps you connected to life. Breathing provides you with refreshment, a constant sense of renewal, and feel good energy. This is the huna, or secret, I discovered for living life rather than being distracted from it. Being open is the only way to receive fullness. I joyfully share with you my huna. If you stay with your ha, you too will discover your own huna about yourself and life. When you discover your huna, share it with me, and we will honi wisdom. Aloha

You Are A Blessing: Part 2

The thing about being a blessing is noticing that everyone and everything else is too. You realize there is nothing special about being a blessing, and yet, everything is special about being a blessing. When you look at everything and everyone, including yourself, as a blessing it changes everything. And it changes nothing. So what the point? It’s not a point. It’s a power. One of the real and true powers we have is perspective. We can either look at everything as an offense or a gift. We can be the pawns and victims of life, the universe, God, whatever or we can be the benefactors of challenges that bring the seeds of opportunities.

Truth is I’ve yet to meet a life without stresses and challenges. And even that reality can be disheartening and distressing or encouraging. We can take it as life is a constant struggle that will never get better or that since everyone struggles we can get better and stronger in our ability to face struggles. Life favors no one and yet we have the power to favor life. We must use our intelligence to interpret things in a way that allows us to create solutions. Without a clear goal our heart has no where to focus its immense power. Used in harmony with our intellect the heart will rally the body and spirit to amazing and heroic accomplishments.

Try this. For one day think of everything you see and everyone you meet as a blessing. Oh it’s easy with the obviously beautiful things like flowers, birds, trees, the sky, but with situations and people who threaten, annoy, and irritate the crap out of us it is much more difficult to see it or them as a blessing. But if you can gain the mental and spiritual muscle to see the blessing in everything you will astound yourself with your own strength.

You Are A Blessing: Part 1

Nearly everyone says or feels it when gazing upon a new born; What a blessing! Immediately thereafter human education begins and depending on your luck of the draw, karma, fate, whatever you either learn to respect, honor, and make the most of the blessing or you end up in therapy, rehab, prison, prematurely dead, or spiritually seeking. If the stars were fucked up when you were born and you landed in a shit hole whether that shit hole was parents who where abusive to you, themselves or both, parents who spoiled you into helplessness and insecurity, parents so strict you ended up with a good degree and well paying job that you hated, well meaning parents who also led you to a good degree and a well paying job that you hated, or the all to rare well adjusted parents who raised you to be boringly well adjusted, it doesn’t matter. All paths lead back to the same premise, you are a blessing. On the off chance you were born to loving and wise people who nurtured your sense of blessing allowing you to actualize yourself, um, why are you reading this?

To be continued.

Saying Grace

I am sometimes asked to offer a blessing on food. The request is well meant, but ill educated. It is redundant. The food, the people gathered, the earth, sun, and rain that made the food are the blessings. Grace serves the purpose of recognizing the blessings of the people and the food. Recognizing the blessings of the people and the food should naturally inspire gratitude and appreciation within you. Saying grace is an expression of thankfulness.

Thanksgiving is not a yearly event. It is a daily and hourly event. Any moment you recognize the blessings in your life you also recognize the grace in your life. It takes a clear and humble heart and mind to see that our lives are full of grace, but the instant you do, you are filled with peace and joy.

Overly Controlling

She slammed both her fist on the table; “How do I fix my relationship!” Me, amused, “Are you going to do this all by yourself.” Without hesitation,
“What’s the point?”, her face twisted with confusion.
“If you are going to do this all by yourself, then do you really have a relationship with another person?”

Her mistake is a common one. People either get scared of not getting what they want, or of losing a relationship, they begin to try too hard and completely dominate the relationship. When this happens it becomes a relationship of one person with their self. To have a good relationship it is important to communicate and share in the development of the relationship. If communication, appreciation, and participation fails then the relationship fails. Recognizing this failure can be painful, but at some point it may be better to leave than force each other to stay.

The Sky Was Full Of Angels

Tokyo, Japan, March 10, 2011. A standing outside enjoying the cool evening air she looks up at the starry sky. Startled she blinks to clear her mind, but when she opens her eyes she continues to see a sky full of angels. Confused? Why? The next morning the earthquake and tsunami. Nearly 20,000 souls…, now she understood. The angels were preparing to greet and guide those souls to Heaven. Know this: even if you don’t believe in angels there are divine beings ready to support you in your worst times.